play my theremin wrote:
Oliver Wendell Douglas wrote:
Why don't I just fuck off , anyway?. What's clear is that some of you people still have no clue when I'm being serious and when I'm completely not, even after years of continually horsing around in the least serious manner possible. I apologize to you if I offended you ; I thought the winkycon was enough to demonstrate that I wasn't being serious, even though there was a level of confrontation because of your initial disrespect for Liz Fraiser.
What I said about Liz Fraser is irrelevant -- she makes herself a public figure and my comments relate only to my value judgement of her artistic merit and image.
I know you were not being serious, but I feel I have to highlight these things because the vast majority of people see no problem with it at all. What I am trying to do is to point out to people in general why comments like this might be offensive. That's why I presented it in the context of race. Unless you are in a minority of people who suffer real harassment and prejudice it is perfectly understandable that you would not see it as significant.
Let's face it -- given a choice between you and me, far more people would like me to fuck off. Which I am not going to do, not at the moment, anyway. I think you're great and often extremely funny. Please do not see any more significance in this than my attempt to highlight an issue that matters to me, because I feel (to an extent) I am among friends.
Check. I'm somewhat insensitive when I think of fun things to say , and overly sensitive when those things come back and bite my butt. I know this about myself , so I don't have a problem admitting it. I'm at another one of those points here in DV where I'm annoying myself , and I can't imagine I'm the only one annoyed, so another apology for being so testy about this , and I'm glad you're able to take it all lightly. I realize some of the difficulty of you're lifestyle, which isn't always as accepted as it is here , and I'll be more careful with the issue in the future . File the 'Elton John' comment under 'couldn't resist (but perhaps should have) ', and we can gladly move on

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Dar
(I think you bring a lot to the forum , btw.)